Anger Management
This article is part of a series that will help you get a better understanding of anger management.
Anger Management is very important because all of us are likely to experience anger at some time.
Feelings of anger can cause a change in behaviour that you should try to stop immediately because if you don't, there may be a violent response. To show anger, animals make loud sounds, bare their teeth and stare. Humans also behave in similar manner when they have feelings of pain and frustration and it is a natural urge to decide to oppose is the cause of these feelings. Physical disputes without the prior expression of anger by least one of the participants are very rare. Because we have language, humans usually have written and verbal sources i.e. written threats and verbal insults, with which to express their feelings.. Hence we may not perceive immediately a physical threat, but can feel pain psychologically.
In order to understand the need for anger management, we have to accept that everyone feels anger at some time. Anger can arise without a direct physical threat and without the actual person causing the pain and frustration being present. We have capacity to imagine the remote future; hence the threat of pain can come from our imagination. It may not be based on anything happening in the immediate present. Humans have some behavioral norms related to social survival. If anybody does not follow these norms of behaviour,this can cause anger in other people e.g. some peoplw feel anger when they feel they are not getting respect. This sort of behavuiour may break social or interpersonal safety rules. Also, you may see that others are being treated unfairly and this can cause you te feel anger although you are not the sufferer. Hence, human beings experience anger empathetically.
Anger management is also important because sometimes anger may result in physical action or shouting loudly. Everyone gets angry. Many people will react very quickly to the perceived pain or insult. It may happen that some lose their coolness and hit the roof. The difficult part is learning what to do with these strong feelings. Sometimes it is important to get angry. Children will understand their mistakes if teacher is angry with them. But anger must be released in proper way. It is similar to steam gathering under the lid opf a boiling kettle which will blow the lid if not suppressed. If such things are happened it is not good for anyone.
Anger management means realising that the solution to your feelings of anger will not come by taking anger out on others. Instead of that, you shoukd admit to yourself that you are angry and try to figure our why. You can talk with someone like a parent, relative or teacher. When you talk about your anger, those bad thoughts normally fade and disappear.
It is impossible that you will never get angry. But if you remember that how you act when you are angry is more likely to worsen the situation causing the feeling of anger rather than improving the situation. In this way, anger management will ensure that you will not lose your control.
I hope this article provided you with the information and understanding you were looking for.
Brian Waybridge, the author of this article, learnt how to come to terms with his own anger and now enjoys positive relationships with his family, friends and colleagues.